Ever feel weird talking about your weight loss with friends?
So I have a friend, and we’ve been on many “diets” together. We started a new one about four months ago, and I fell off, and she kept going. Well of course as you all know I have started this journey yet again.
I think she noticed that when we went out the other night and I didn’t eat that much, and didn’t order drinks that something was up. So she’s like are you on a diet? I’m like well I’m trying to watch. So then she’s like when is your weigh in day? How much did you loose so far, ect..
So I’m talking to her tonight and she’s asking me all about this again. I said well I had to do something, becuase I gained back all the weight I lost last time, plus some. I am a little over 200lbs. She’s like no way, thats so much! You dont’ weigh that much! How do you respond to that????? lol, I wish I didn’t weigh that much!!! I felt like she thought I was lyeing, becuase so many people lie about weighing more then they do, lol!
But why do I feel funny sharing my success with her and others? I just feel so uncomfortable talking about it. Is it because I think I will fail? I’m not sure…. I should be celebrating, not hiding it from others. Does anyone else feel this way?
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I to feel uncomfortable talking to some of my friends about it.. I am also embarressed when i go to their house for dinner and don’t eat certain things and then am asked why i am not eating it. I shouldnt be the one that is embarressed because i am trying to get healthy but i think it makes my friends feel uncomfortable because they are still eating all of it and need to lose weight. It kindof throws it in their face a little when that isnt what i mean to do at all.
Sure do. When I tell people how much I weigh most don’t believe me. I think only a select few of my freinds no how much I weigh. Like you I have also dieted before and lost a lot of weight. When people see me now I feel so embarrassed!! I once told one of my friends who was overweight how I was dieting and everything. We went out to eat a couple of times and one time she just started crying because she said I cared about my weight to much!! I couldn’t believe it! I was just eating healthy, nothing wrong with that. My fear is telling people how much I weigh. When I say oh I have lost 5 pounds most people want to know my starting weight. That is the part that freaks me out!
I have some friends that i am really close with that totally get it. Then I have a friend that tells me all the time that I don’t need to diet and that I shouldn’t diet. According to him, some people are just heavy and there is nothing we can do about it. Did I tell you he is skinny? It really pisses me off! I mean, I have so maybe I am genetically predisposed, or my metabolism is wonky, but I can control what goes in my mouth and how much I work out. I’m sorry, didn’t mean to go on a rant. Let your friends support you if they want to. But if they are not supportive, don’t worry about feeling weird.
I completely understand where you are coming from and feel that way as well. I have a hard time talking to anyone outside Buddyslim about weight issues. Hence, my love affair with this place.
If I was to tell someone I am working on losing weight, they either support me or tell me I don’t need to do it.
But when I was big, they had a ton of fun cracking fat jokes.
So, I didn’t talk about it because one, most of them are skinny and don’t understand my struggle. If I was to lose, then I win but if I don’t lose no one else knows. It’s my own little secret.
Just the other day, Monday, one of the people at the gym asked if I lost weight…I lied….I felt that the 2 lbs loss wasn’t good enough so I didn’t want to acknowledge it. I don’t know either. This whole thing is so confusing, so mental at times.
Oh, sorry, this should be about you.
Do what makes you feel comfortable. You know you have us to talk to about it.
I know how you feel girl. I had so many people say bad things about my weight when I was younger, that I just dont feel comfortable about talking about it now. Except on here. This is the only place where I open up about it.
Yup the only thing I share with my friends is how much I’ve lost. I never have told them my starting weight I haven’t even told my family that! They can guess away at it all they want.
I share everything on here and almost nothing with the outside world. Like Nancy said “If I was to lose, then I win but if I don’t lose no one else knows. It’s my own little secret.” she said it well, but we’re here to win right!!!
Share with your friends if you want to, but if it makes you uncomfortable tell them “sorry, but I don’t share that info” I’ve had to say that to some family members before and didn’t feel bad saying it either.